Don’t Give Up on Friendships—God Is Teaching You Through Them

Dear Jesus, 

I do believe lessons repeat because we haven't learned from them. For example, we all seek friendships as we see on TV. We all want that loving, supportive group of friends you can hang out with and support one another emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

Supporting you through your darkest trials in life.  Those are the friends we want; it's a natural human desire.  Because we are wired for connection. Unfortunately, we are more isolated than ever before.

 Due to resentment, betrayal, bitterness, childhood trauma, childhood unrecognized toxic patterns, and hopelessness. So we choose to accept this kind of treatment in friendship. Knowing “hurt people hurt people.”Know that God has given you discernment, and you spot their toxic traits.  But you still choose to stay, and place a towel on top of your spiritual lens. Giving you warning signs, leave, do not try to become their friend. You helped them in the area that God told you to be a part of.  Remember, people sometimes are just meant to be seasonal. You were called to plan a seed.  It's time to move on. 

 You see, when you said yes, God gave you wisdom, knowledge, and self-awareness.  And sometimes you're in a different state of mind because of that, and others may not be at that level as you are.  But the beauty about you is that you are a kind person, and you give unconditionally, whether that is advice or some sort of action.  

You give, and others know it, and they just want to take without giving back, and they see your greatness. So they attempt to minimize you, hurt you with words to make you insecure, so that they may feel better than you, because they are secretly competing with you and attempting to steal your “ identity.” Still, unfortunately, they can't ever be you. 

So,  I beg you to listen to the warning signs the Holy Spirit is giving you.   And if you ignore them and God gives you a situation where they hurt you, remain calm; do not react; do not give them that satisfaction. Go home, reflect, and if you feel peace, you have learned the lesson God has given you, regarding friendship. You see, God wants you to learn to test the spirit. Listen to the Holy Spirit when He convicts you. God also wants you to value yourself and become selective with who you let into your life. 

Scripture:

Proverbs 13:20 (CSB) The one who walks with the wise will become wise, but a companion of fools will suffer harm. 

Proverbs 22:24-25 (CSB)24 Don’t make friends with an angry person, and don’t be a companion of a hot-tempered one, 25, or you will learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare. 

Proverbs 27:17(CSB) Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.

Proverbs 17:17, 18:24(CSB)"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a difficult time."