Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?

Dear Jesus 

 Why do you hate asking for help? 

Why do we always assume that if we ask, we are a burden to others? Why would they want to help me?  “ I am nobody.” 

 Why would they be okay with doing a quick errand with me? Why would they help me pay a bill?

  Why would they listen to my pitiful story? Why do we stop ourselves from seeking help? Why do we assume we have to do everything ourselves and that seeking help is a sign of weakness?  A sign that we can't hold ourselves together in the public eye?  Is it our own pride that gets in the way? 

Do we cover it with a victim thought, giving ourselves pity? Making us feel as if” it's too much to ask, “ ” it's for the good of others.” As if we have the authority to think on their behalf. Believing the thought of “I don't want to bother them.” This comes from a good place. Are we covering our chance of being seen as vulnerable?

  Ohh God, this is bad, help us break this bondage we carry from years of being wired this way, by believing this toxic pattern. The enemy has used against us, so we avoid community. Avoid the opportunity to be lifted by others, which makes us strong instead of weak. 

Scripture:

Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 (CSB) “ two people are better than one because they get a better return for their labor and can support each other if they fall.”

Galatians 6:2 (CSB) “Carry one another’s burdens; in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

James 4:6 (CSB) "But he gives greater grace. Therefore he says: God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

1 Corinthians 12:25–26 (CSB) 

“God designed the body of Christ to function in unity without division, ensuring members have equal concern for each other.”